Dating Detox

Salut,

sitting in a crowded bus, was reading my job emails with one hand and drinking a coffee with the other, while sitting on only half a seat because the big guy sitting besides me is taking one and a half... Ho well... at least he was there before me and didn't just sit on me as some people do sometimes when you're sitting on a small two places seat before they come invade your bubble...

Talking about invading other people's bubble, I have been looking for new friends on Facebook recently... Like I didn't have enough already... So I realized that it is probably a way for me to compensate for the urge I sometimes feel to go back on the Internet Dating scene when I feel too lonely... But I don't want to go back there... I need to find myself first, before I could find someone else to share with... I had someone very special available for me recently, and I couldn't feel it as I should have... As I wanted... As I once did... And it is not the first time it happens... So I need to fix this...

So I decided to invest more in friendships instead... Reconnect with my long time friends that I have neglected for the past few years, because I was too busy either trying to save my marriage, or looking for a new one... And recently... I realized... That I kind of lost myself in there... somewhere....

So I decided to stop dating... But I know myself... I have lived through this before... I remember when I broke up with a girlfriend, thinking that I would be better off alone for a while... and I got back on the Internet dating scene, as soon as I got a kids free weekend after the split...

But not this time... I'm not going back there... And it's funny, because my friend GG (also known as Lili on my French blog) decided that she would try it (Internet Dating), and she's asking me for advice... Interesting twist... the table keeps on turning... :-)

To help myself go through the severance of not browsing Internet Dating sites, looking for the love of my life, I go through Facebook instead, and look for new friends, (e.g., in my existing friends' friends lists). It's kind of like nicotine patches :-)... But, as I was saying, I want to invest more in friendships anyway... And I'm starting to believe that love at first sight is just one way of falling in love. It can also start through a friendship that slowly morphs into love... But in our quick paced modern life, we want it to go quicker, we don't want to wait, we prefer to zap and see what's playing on the other channels... But as was sang before... You can't hurry love... no you just have to wait... :-)

BYE
MAD

Sex-Evolution

Salut,

it's been a while... I know... I also neglected my French blog for a while, but I started being more regular there recently, so I thought I'd ping this one today... Don't know why but, sitting in the train this morning, trying to rest with my head against the wall besides the side seat where I dropped off my body less then 20 minutes after I dragged it out of bed, about seven hours after it finally fell asleep last night, I was thinking about sex... Maybe because I'm not getting much of it these days (if you read my French blog, you know that I decided to take a break from my eternal quest for love)... Or maybe because we had an interesting discussion about it with friends last night...

I was at a couple of friends place and we were playing boardgames... It was a lot of fun by the way. We don't do it enough, friends getting together, and also play board games.... So I'm trying to remember now, how I got to think about this sex-evolution thingy a few minutes ago... Was it while I was thinking about the conversation we had last night, or was it that woman sitting in front of me that is really not attracting for my own taste... I don't know... But I got into thinking about how men evolve sexually with age by getting to think more and more about the women's pleasure and often put it in front of their own... And how women often go the other around... They finally start thinking more about their own pleasure(s)... :-)

Yesterday, while talking about this with my friends, I was telling them how being faithful with the same woman for over 16 years (from the age of 22 to 39), I could see a big change in the women I was with (and also a change in my own self) from my early twenties to my early forties...

Women in their forties are much more open with sexuality, and especially with « their own » sexuality (at least the ones I've been close enough to)... Whereas in their early « twenties » it seemed to be more about giving sex to men as opposed to getting sex from them (or I should say “with” them)... And I had an interesting thought about “why this is”... while my head was resting against the wall besides me... :-)

Younger men have a tendency to only think about their own pleasure, and think that women will simply have pleasure just... just... just because... you know... Man is pleased... so... woman should be pleased too right? So all in all, most young men don't know much about women's pleasure(s)... right? But women don't need to know much about men's pleasure to satisfy them... At least not the basic stuff... Men are easy... and lazy... :-)

I get the feeling that younger women take a little while before noticing that most young men are clumsy in bed... Most of them will be too shy to help them (some lucky guys, like I was, will meet women early on that will have the guts to let them know how it all works ;-)... So I'm guessing that younger women are not looking as much for men that are good in bed, because they don't know yet that most of them are not, they put more emphasis on properly satisfying the men that they are very attracted to, but this attraction comes from outside of the bed...

With time, they start getting bored in bed with those clumsy men that they don't dare educate, and they get to a point where they think they don't need sex that much... And their men start being frustrated, because they're not getting enough, and thus they either start cheating, or start getting more and more interested in their woman's pleasure... Maybe if she starts having more fun in bed, she'll want to have more sex... And that's all that “us stupid men” want, right? More sex... And with age... We also want... Better sex... Because we know that it will hep us get more sex... But we eventually get to learn that we can also have stronger pleasures ourselves, if we pay more attention to women's pleasures... Of course... :-)

So with time, and age, sex gets better, for both men and women. Because the aging younger woman that starts being bored with her clumsy boyfriend, will either quit him, and start going out with other men, now being more picky with their abilities in bed... or cheat on them just to see if the problem is on their side... You know... Just to check.. try it out... Just in case...

And some women, will soon realize that men get better in bed as they age, like good wine... ;-)... So they will start dating older men... But if women are also getting better in bed as they age, why would older men date younger women??? Ho... Yeah... I forgot... Men are stupid... They just want more sex... :-)

So... This is my morning train ride reflexion... And don't ask me why I decided to write it in English... I have no clue... The friends I was with last night are not even Anglophones (and no, we didn't have a “ménage a trois”, we were really playing « board » games, at it was a lot of fun!!! :-)... Actually, I think it is because of the title... When I had this thought about the evolution of our sex abilities as we age, the term « Sex-evolution » came to mind, and I pronounced it in English in my head... And... I have been toying with the idea of writing an English blog post recently...

And no, they weren't sexually oriented board games we played last night, it was the Québec French version of Trivial Pursuit, and a robot programming game that I forgot the name of (some sort of robot catch the flag battle kind of thingy, and yes, there was an 'L' in the word fLag... ;-)...

Train is reaching destination, I'm getting to the bottom of the second page, so I will soon reach a conclusion... I don't know what it will be, since most of what I write here, I think about it as I write it, with no preparation whatsoever (except for a theme and a few catchy lines that may have popped out of my crazy brain earlier)...

So I will simply say goodbye and wish that whatever your age is, you have a healthy and enjoyable sex life that will only get better as you get older... At least, I wish it for myself :-)...

Have Fun!!!

:-P

BYE
MAD
P.S.: I made a conscious decision, not to add any photos or even links to this blog post... I was afraid to get too far on the subject of... you know... sssseeeexxxxxx.... :-)